Dating & Relationships...

Finding Love - Is It Really That Difficult?

Sigh, if only we could go to a store and buy it or search online on google or msn and find it. Hmmm...well you just might you know, online dating is very scientific and with sites like eharmaony and date.com the chances of finding love have improved significantly.

Finding love is as important as finding air. Almost everything we are wanting boils down to us wanting love or us wanting happiness. We think we will find love "out there," so we look for a partner to make us happy. Sometimes we find such a person, and it seems to satisfy our hunger for love at least for a while. It is hard to find lasting love outside. Yet most people keep looking for it out there, and seldom do they look where love always can be found: inside our own hearts.

This notion of love within us is so easily dismissed as false, or sappy, or mythical that we write it off before we even give it a chance. But it is so vital, so real, and so simple. Finding love is always in inside task.

How do you find love within? Finding love is something to approach properly. Well, in a way you do not have to find it because you are it. A spiritual book called A Course in Miracles says: "Teach only love, for that is what you are."

This means to share your true self. Teach not only with words, but also with the fullness of your heart. Your inner most being, you deepest light, is pure love.

You-as-love may not be what you now think of yourself to be. You may feel like you are a mind, a bundle of busy thoughts and random feelings. But this is only the superficial level of "you." Beneath all that, you are love. You are pure light.

The thoughts and feelings at the surface are often your mind's attempt to look for love. They are just part of you, a small part. Usually this search comes in the form of looking outside for a romantic partner. Your thoughts and emotions then are always directed in an outward search. Simply put, your mind believes it will find love out side itself.

So, how is it going? Has it worked for you? Has it really worked? Be honest.

If you cease to look for love outside (usually by truing to find romance or approval), you will still want love, but you will more easily sense it within. Be willing to stop your search all together.

"Oh come on, I can't do that! Give me a break! Everyone looks for love!" The need for finding love is the common denominator among people.

Which part of you just said that? Or said something similar? Was it the mind or was it the heart that already is love? It had to have been the mind. The simple truth is this: your mind will still search for love, but your heart alone feels it.

So when I say "stop searching for love" what I mean is that your mind will not necessarily stop searching but its search does not have to be all consuming. Do not take its search so seriously, and instead be the love that you are. Start finding love in yourself, despite your mind's attempt to find it elsewhere. This is the key.

Or as I started this article, finding love with sites like eharmony, date.com and adultfriendfinder.com for the erotic minded are doing a more than excellent job.

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